The Intimacy of Holding Space

A few years ago, working with Carolyn Resnick, I was invited to let my horse investigate my person.

We spend so much time, (for loving reasons) investigating our horses through touch.

I look in their ears, between their legs, stick my hands in unmentionable places to check for ticks, wounds or pain.

It makes a lot of sense that they might be curious about my body as well

However, I was taught an old narrative, from childhood that a horse looking into your pockets, sniffing, licking, pushing (even gently) was bad behavior.

I believe this is a human fear response. One of humans who have not been in consenting relationships with horses, and likely subconsciously fear their horse might touch them with the same recklessness they touch their horse.

Of course, we must be safe, and have our own limits around physical space.

However, our perceived or taught limits can keep us from deeper connection.

There likely is, safety, connection, gentle touch, curious investigation just beyond this edge.

I practice this intimacy of holding space for physical exploration with my human and horse partners. I invite you to this dance!